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Sexual Identity: Gender/Sex

Gender/Sex describes our bodies' genitals, anatomy, and chromosomes.


It does not describe gender identity or expression.


Gender is biological-based and socially created. It is based on the body's sexual anatomy - it is as diverse as nature itself.


Gender is one of the most varied aspects of all species on planet Earth. Human gender is more diverse than most people realize.


There are millions of people worldwide whose gender is not typical.


Gender as SEX describes the chromosomes and anatomy of a person's body.


Man/Boy - XY chromosomes and the presence of a penis, scrotum, and testicles


Woman/Girl - XX chromosomes and the presence of a vulva, vagina, uterus, and ovaries


Intersex person - other chromosomal combinations or genitals that do not appear typical


At young ages, children learn from adults and society what is expected of people whose bodies look like theirs.


People with penises are taught certain things. People with vulvas are taught certain things.


Not everyone's gender/sex matches their internal sense of themself.


All gender/sex bodies are valid and beautiful and deserve respect.


People who are intersex sometimes are raised as individuals who determine for themselves who they are and how to be.


Some intersex people are raised and pressured to fit into a certain identity or set of social norms.


We can all play a part in making the world safer and more inclusive for all variations of gender/sex.


The biological tissues that make up human genitals are more alike than they are different.


Genitals of all kinds can bring people incredible amounts of physical pleasure and arousal. That pleasure is often hindered by messages that instil shame, stigma, and discomfort.


All bodies are worthy of pleasure that is free of stigma and shame.


Many cultures around the world include people of all genders/sexes. In many cases, people are celebrated for their gender diversity and serve spiritual or special roles in their societies.


We can work together to make the kinky and pup community places where people of all genders/sexes are celebrated and included.


What kinksters and pups can do to be more inclusive of all genders/sexes:


  • Embrace your and others' bodies as they are, pursue pleasure and satisfaction.

  • Don't let others tell you how your body should be and what it should feel like.

  • Celebrate and embrace all who people are, and avoid objectifying and dehumanizing people by focusing only on their genitals.

  • Revisit how you have socialized about gender/sex and how it limits or frees you to have meaningful intimate connections with people.

  • Consider your preferences for certain types, sizes, shapes of genitals feel to the human who own them.

  • Find ways to communicate your desires or disinterests that also affirm and respect people's dignity and bodies.


Social Media Post to Share with Friends.

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